Solomon once again is tackling the subject of adultery. Remember that this was a topic that he was painfully familiar with. Notice how descriptive he is here (Proverbs 7:6-23 NIV)
At the window of my house
I looked out through the lattice.
I saw among the simple,
I noticed among the young men,
a youth who lacked judgment.
I have to stop here and comment on this youth. For Solomon to have glanced out his window and noticed that a stranger was a little on the low end of judgment says much of this youth.
He was going down the street near her corner,
walking along in the direction of her house
at twilight, as the day was fading,
as the dark of night set in.
What is it about twilight that he would pointedly use this here in his narrative? When it comes to twilight/dusk, I don’t mind it until I am driving and have to be able to discern what is further down the road from me. It is harder to see a deer or anything else that might cross my path when the day and the night begin to mingle.
This is also true in our decision making life. There are times where the obvious “yeses” and the obvious “nos” become “I’m not sure”, “possibly”, “Uh?” There are times when some no’s might be yes’s. There are times when we are struck by the fact that we have a decision to make that we can’t begin to process what the decision is much less the answer. With wisdom under our belt, we won’t have to spend so much time wondering or searching. Since we have been instructed to make it such an ingrained part of us, it should be in the forefront of our minds at all times.
Then out came a woman to meet him,
dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent.
(She is loud and defiant,
her feet never stay at home;
now in the street, now in the squares,
at every corner she lurks.)
She took hold of him and kissed him
and with a brazen face she said:
“I have fellowship offerings at home;
today I fulfilled my vows.
She had fulfilled all responsibilities that were for the day. She had gone to the temple and paid her tithe, confessed, or fulfilled her volunteer job. She is letting you know that she is at heart a very good person and does what is required of her and might even be a respected person.
So I came out to meet you;
I looked for you and have found you!
I have covered my bed
with colored linens from Egypt.
I have perfumed my bed
with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.
Come, let’s drink deep of love till morning;
let’s enjoy ourselves with love!
It’s tempting. It sounds relaxing, exciting, exotic, and very tempting. That is how almost everything that we shouldn’t do starts out. That is why we give in so often. What could possibly be the harm in meeting someone, dressing the bed so beautifully, smelling nice, loving someone, enjoying yourself? In truth, absolutely nothing is wrong with that. God would not condemn you for it. But why are you doing it? That is the question that really leads to whether or not you should do this.
My husband is not at home;
he has gone on a long journey.
He took his purse filled with money
and will not be home till full moon.”
A little more light is shed on this twilight. She is alone. Obviously he will be gone a long time. Plenty of time for a little fun. You’ve already got a relaxing exotic image in your head which is a completely “non-sinful” aspect. Until she continues. Now the motives come out. Now the answer could mean death or life. He’s gone. Who will know? You’ll be enjoying yourself and having fun.
With persuasive words she led him astray;
she seduced him with her smooth talk.
All at once he followed her
like an ox going to the slaughter,
like a deer stepping into a noose
till an arrow pierces his liver,
like a bird darting into a snare,
little knowing it will cost him his life.
Words are very persuasive. You can be talked into almost anything. Don’t think you can’t. If the person knows how to use that silver tongue to its full advantage, you wouldn’t even know what hit you. You could be lying in the chaotic misery that is left just wondering how did you get there and they would be long gone.
Adultery could happen to anyone. I say that only because it starts off so innocently. There is no harm in anything you do initially. Adultery is probably nowhere near your mind. The next thing you know you are front headlines in the local (or national) paper, your wife is talking to a lawyer, your kids hate the sight of you, your in-laws…. (we won’t discuss the contract now on your head), the cashiers look at you differently, you’ve lost your job, you’ve got another child on the way by the other woman, and you just got diagnosed with an STD. What was the harm in that little tryst? Obviously a lot!
Now, let’s move away from literal physical adultery.
What was the harm in spending your entire paycheck on the latest blackberry? What was the harm in skipping work again today? What was the harm in going out with the guys on your anniversary? What was the harm in spending the entire day surfing the internet?
Some acts are not sinful in and of themselves. They start off good. But end up so bad.
Where are your weak points? What do you collect? Are you lonely? You need examine where you have “holes” in your life that you are consciously or unconsciously trying to fill. That is where the adultery in your life will more than likely appear.