In the previous lesson we discussed seduction and adultery. Solomon continues on this topic by saying in verses 7-10
Now then, my sons, listen to me;
do not turn aside from what I say.
Keep to a path far from her,
do not go near the door of her house,
lest you give your best strength to others
and your years to one who is cruel,
lest strangers feast on your wealth
and your toil enrich another man’s house. (NIV)
Be very careful giving into the temptation that seduces you. When you even go near it, you take such a chance. If following the original example Solomon uses we can describe it as when a man gives in to temptation with a woman not his wife. It sometimes becomes a long term affair. When that happens, he cannot give his best to his wife and family. He might not totally give it to the other woman, but the ones who should be getting it are the ones deprived. The other woman takes the best from not only him but his family even if they are unaware of the sin. Most men begin thinking that it is only one time. For an extreme few that is true. But what normally happens is that if you get away with it once, what will one more time hurt? You promise yourself just one more time. And then you think it worked, so one more time. Before you know it that slippery slope is flying past you faster and faster.
You are never in control of sin. When you sin, you have relinquished control to everyone else but yourself and God. It will suck it out of you. No matter what that sin is that you give in to. When you give into that extra drink, you have handed your life and those of others to a fermented drink. When you give into those tempting lips, you have given another person leverage over your life, your career, your family, your future. You lose out each and every time. Others gain from your weaknesses while you lose it all.
Is it really worth it? Is that “innocent” kiss at the company holiday party really worth the look of betrayal on your wife’s face or the disgust in your children’s eyes? Even if it never went beyond that kiss, trust has been broken and you are looked at much differently. It is never worth it.